What does a death doula actually do, and how can conversations about death help us live more fully? In this episode, I sit down with Nikki DiGaetano, a death doula, grief-support practitioner, and the voice behind Numbered Days, for an honest, grounding, and unexpectedly empowering conversation about death, dying, grief, end-of-life planning, and living with intention. Nikki shares her journey from feeling unfulfilled and “sleepwalking” through life to finding purpose in hospice volunteering, death doula training, and grief work. Together, we talk about why death does not have to be a taboo topic, how acknowledging our mortality can bring more clarity to our relationships and choices, and why it is completely normal for death to feel both meaningful and scary. We also break down what death doulas do, including non-medical emotional support, end-of-life planning, hospice navigation, bedside companionship, grief support, and legacy work. Whether you are navigating a divorce, parenting on your own, grieving someone you love, caring for a family member, or simply trying to live more intentionally, this conversation offers a compassionate new perspective. In this episode, we discuss:
What a death doula is—and what they are not
The difference between a death doula, hospice, and medical end-of-life care
How death doulas can support individuals and families before, during, and after a loss
Grief support when you feel alone, divorced, or unsupported by the people around you
Why end-of-life planning is valuable at every age
How to navigate conversations about medical wishes, legacy, and final arrangements
The relationship between death anxiety, grief, and intentional living
Why writing your own obituary can become a powerful purpose and manifestation exercise
How to stop “sleepwalking” through life and start aligning your daily choices with the life you want to be remembered for
How to find a death doula and why it is important to choose someone who feels like the right fit
Death is one of the few universal experiences we all share, yet so many of us are taught to avoid talking about it. Nikki reminds us that while death and grief can be painful, uncomfortable, and frightening, they can also invite us back into presence—helping us appreciate our relationships, name what matters most, and live with more courage while we are here. Connect with Nikki: Website: Numbered Days Instagram: @numbereddays.doula If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone navigating grief, caregiving, divorce, loss, or a major life transition. Subscribe to keep up with the latest episodes. https://therisencollective.co @http://therisencollective.co on Instagram and TikTok
