Why do you keep repeating the same painful patterns, even when you know better? In this powerful episode of the Risen Collective Podcast*, Rebecca sits down with subconscious reprogramming coach *Renee Ella to unpack the real reasons we stay stuck in self-sabotage, unhealthy relationships, money struggles, perfectionism, overthinking, and the familiar cycles we desperately want to leave behind. Renee shares how early-life experiences can shape the beliefs, coping strategies, and “safe” patterns we carry into adulthood and why journaling, affirmations, and surface-level mindset work may not always create lasting change on their own. Together, Rebecca and Renee explore subconscious reprogramming, neuroplasticity, somatic healing, nervous-system regulation, inner-child patterns, and the radical responsibility required to stop living as the victim of your circumstances and start becoming the main character of your own life. You’ll hear honest, relatable conversations about:
Why healthy love can feel scarier than chaotic relationships
How childhood messages around money can influence adult financial habits
The connection between perfectionism, people-pleasing, and feeling worthy
Why your brain may resist the very growth you consciously want
How nervous-system regulation can help you respond differently to stress, parenting, relationships, and big life changes
Why healing does not mean becoming perfect—or raising perfect children
The role of coaching, somatic work, and supportive accountability in creating real transformation
How to stop blaming yourself or others and reclaim your power
If you feel like you have tried the affirmations, made the vision boards, done the journaling, gone to therapy, and still find yourself returning to the same patterns, this conversation will help you see yourself with more compassion—and give you a new lens for creating sustainable change. Follow Renee on Instagram: / reneeella_ Listen to the Risen Collective Podcast for more conversations on healing, growth, relationships, single parenthood, identity, and creating a life that feels deeply aligned.
