Are you tired of repeating the same relationship patterns, attracting emotionally unavailable men, or getting stuck in toxic or narcissistic dynamics, especially after divorce from a toxic relationship? In this episode, we go deep into the “chosen wound,” the subconscious need to be chosen that keeps so many women abandoning themselves in dating, relationships, marriage, and divorce recovery. I’m joined by Dara Sloan, a coach who helps women break free from people‑pleasing, codependency, and old identities so they can step into their power, sovereignty, and self‑trust in love, life, and business. We talk about why so many women feel desperate to be chosen, how this shows up as self‑abandonment, and what it really looks like to choose yourself instead. We cover:
What the “chosen wound” actually is and how it forms in childhood, family dynamics, and early relationships
How women with a “need to be chosen” get pulled into narcissistic and toxic relationships
Dating after divorce: learning to see partners as mirrors and growth opportunities instead of proof of your worth
How people‑pleasing, over‑performing, and constantly shrinking yourself are all symptoms of the same wound
Why you might feel shame for “calling in” toxic relationships—and how to transform that into power
The difference between karmic partners, growth partners, and your divine partner
Quantum leaping, identity shifts, and becoming an energetic match for the love you actually desire
How to stop obsessing, over‑attaching, and creating fantasy stories about someone before they’ve even earned your trust
The role of nervous system regulation in healing attachment wounds and rebuilding self‑trust
Why prioritizing your own life, joy, and purpose is essential before you can align with a healthy, divine masculine partner
If you’re a woman healing after divorce, getting back into dating, or realizing you’ve spent years abandoning yourself in relationships, this conversation will activate you in the best way. It might feel triggering at times, but that’s where the real liberation begins.
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